curiousdinosaur asked: I think being confused about your identity is normal at any age! I mean, you have people well into their 50s and 60s who have little crises and change partners, hobbies, labels, hair styles, personal fashion, cars, boob size, etc etc. I don't think I'm super qualified to give you advice, but I think you're cool and you'll find your own answer :^)
Thank you so much ♥ I really appreciate you taking your time to be so lovely.
Anonymous asked: ~hugs~ It's okay not to know, and it's okay to take as much time as you need to figure it out. And it's okay to change your mind as soon as your current label doesn't seem to fit. There is no magic age when we suddenly know everything about ourselves (and where's the fun in not having anything new to discover about yourself?) Whatever you decide or don't decide is going to be fine, and the people of tumblr will be here to support you.
You are way too nice, thank you so much!
maddwonka asked: *hug*
Thank you lovely ♥
People being angry about ~dem gays~ on Target’s Facebook.
I just want to give my two cents on this and tell you a story.
A couple weeks ago, I was hired at Target. I have a job at Target. Not a big deal right?
It is a big deal because i’m a transman.
It doesn’t take a genius to conclude that it’s hard for me, my brothers, and sisters to get a job. There are legal restraints regarding the job and if you don’t pass, it’s hard to be taken seriously at a job interview.
Right on the application, it asks what your preferred name is. It also asks if there is anything that target should know. I put the fact that I am a transman, expecting not to get a call because usually when you put that down, people will throw out the application. I got TWO interviews.
At the interview, they asked me about it. I told them I am on hormones and they told me that they didn’t care. Not in the sense that they don’t emotionally care, but that it didn’t matter. I was male and that’s all that mattered. They also told me that they give sex same couples benefits in states that do not recognize them as a married couple.
At my job orientation, I was not misgendered once. Even my supervisors who weren’t sure of my gender avoided pronoun use, which I found only happens when you’ve had pronoun training. They gave me a name tag with my preferred name and didn’t ask questions. I felt safe and respected, which is huge for a trans* person.
TLDR: Target is amazing not just for the LGB, but also the T. Shop there for the rest of your life.
I’m really struggling with relationship feels at the moment. This is going to sound weird and maybe even a bit contradictory but I honestly can’t tell if I’m aromantic or if I’m polyamorous and it’s taking a toll on me. My thoughts are all over the place.
My sexual orientation is also confusing me and I just don’t know anymore what I am. How do you figure it out? At 26 surely I should know now?
I also have all kinds of confusion and questions about my gender identity and it’s just making me feel confused and angry and scared and sad. I don’t know what to do or think anymore.